BlogHow Other People Can Ruin Your Relationship

January 4, 2018by Frank Love9

Last week I shared a post talking about prepping all of your food for the week in one afternoon (I also have a whole chapter dedicated to make-ahead meals in my popular ebook) I offered lots of tips, pictures, and gave a step by step on what my food prep day looks like. I received lots of positive feedback on this post. However, within those comments were statements like this:

That looks amazing, I wish I could do that!
Wow, you are so organized, can you come to my house and do that for me?
I would love to food prep but don’t know where to start…
I tried to prep my food and got so overwhelmed I quit!

These comments, and others like them, made me think. I want you (my reader) to read the posts I write and think to yourself “I can do this”. I do not want you to feel overwhelmed or that it’s too out of reach. BELIEVE ME if you knew me in “real life” you would say “Dang, if Tammy can do it then I can definitely do this”. Not kidding! Some of my closest friends wonder how I even tie my own shoelaces some days. But one of my favorite quotes is “It never gets easier, you only get better”. This is so true. The more I work at something the “easier” it gets. Not because the task itself got easier but because I got better. I evolved. The person I am today with food prep is not the person I was 4 years ago just starting out.

If I were to give weekly food prep guidelines to the “just starting out” Tammy this is what they would be…

Don’t try to prep it all!

First and foremost, when starting out, don’t try and make ahead your entire weekly menu plan. This will completely overwhelm you – it can still overwhelm me. Start slow. The first week prep 1 or 2 recipes ahead of time and as you get comfortable with the process you can prep more.

Don’t try new recipes

When starting out with food prep it is best to stick with recipes you already know. This way you are confident in the outcome of the recipe and the only thing you need to focus on is preparing it ahead of time. This is the way I started with my food prep. I took recipes that I made often, like taco meat and red clam sauce, and prepared them ahead of time and then stored in the refrigerator and sometimes freezer. I was able to focus on what worked, what didn’t, and most importantly it allowed me to experience the benefits of having food ready. I know taco meat and clam sauce is easy to make but I still found having these meals made ahead of time to be extremely beneficial.

Choose which recipe(s), if made ahead of time, would make the biggest difference in your week

This is huge! If you are short on time or don’t have the energy to prepare a lot of food then prioritize your meals. Which recipe, if made ahead of time, is going to make your week easier? If you are rushing around every morning and always running out of time for a healthy breakfast then maybe focus on preparing breakfast sandwiches or steel cut oats. If dinnertime brings you the most stress then put together some meal starters or prep ingredients for a couple slow cooker recipes. If you are always running to the vending machine at 3:00pm then put together some veggie packs or bags of almonds. What is going to make it easier for you to eat healthier during the week?

When I was working out of the house having lunch prepared was huge. If I didn’t I was going to the vending machines or cafeteria for sure. You can view all my mason jar salad recipes here.

Frank Love

Frank Love is a loving mate, father of five and author, "How to Gracefully Exit a Relationship."


  • Loren G., LCSW, CHt

    September 11, 2012 at 7:58 PM

    Some valid points, Frank… I’ll look forward to reading the details in your upcoming book… One of the issues that comes from your post is HOW people handle the stress of other people’s opinions… what to say, what to do… etc. That’s a good follow-up discussion…


  • Mel F.

    September 11, 2012 at 7:59 PM

    What I’ve discovered are people who try to give advice and have no idea what the hell they’re talking about. Makes a bad situation worse


  • Robert P.

    September 11, 2012 at 8:00 PM

    …so true, but remember more often than otherwise you are the one to make the decision to end a relationship. Looking forward to reading the book.


  • Dr. Clifford

    September 11, 2012 at 8:01 PM

    My mother pushed her religion so much that it destroyed my bother and sisters’s marriages, and so i never let her set foot in my home again to keep her from possibly doing so to me.


  • Elva A.

    September 11, 2012 at 8:03 PM

    I think a more appropriate discussion could be “How to Ruin Your Own Good Marriage”. Too often we see our problems as something being done to us which makes us victim when there may be things we can do to correct the situation or get help.


  • Mel F.

    September 23, 2012 at 11:16 PM

    I tell people that if you get married, keep the in-laws at a respectful distance. There is a couple I know where the mother of the husband was always trying to tell his wife how to cook properly. The woman is a certified, and graduated gourmet chef, and has worked all over the Europe. His mother’s attitude, was that no-one could fix meals for her son, as she did. One Thanks giving she(the wife), and I prepared a very well done dinner together. I also had culinary training, and the mother was nit picky about the food although everyone else, including her husband raved about it. I told Mum, point black that she was afraid of letting her son go, and she’s feeling abandoned.


  • Hannah

    June 8, 2016 at 3:54 PM

    My ex boyfriend broke up with me almost 3 weeks ago he took drugs and said he stopped my family and friends didn’t like him I was with him for 3. 5 years on and off I knew him since we were 14 its weird without him I need him I want him so bad. my dad took my phone away as I was talking to him his blocked me on facebook. I’m not giving up on our relationship it was true love he was the one I was gonna give my virginity for I loved him he meant everything to me even though I’m a Christian I want him back I cant even revise for my exam I’m depressed and sad and hurt listening to sad songs I want him back


  • matthew n wright

    December 26, 2016 at 4:21 AM

    Their are alot of things you can only imagine, that brings insecuritys and anxiaty, depressions. As people we are all at fault of some types of inseciritys. People blame others and judge without thinking. It’s a human impulse we use daily. We judge people to the extents that we think people judge us and that’s just a depressing thought. Something very hard to stop doing. It ruins people’s lives and builds insecurity in themselves and possibly there family. When we come to terms that our we as people are most certaintly are at the most risks of our own thoughts of ourselves, and letting that ruin a good relationship. Who cares what people think about you really if you never come to terms with who you are and accept the fact that we all mess up and have flaws and it just generates the most important idea of all the most mejestic one theory can logically explains WE ARE HUMANS. So that being said get over what ever reasons you have about holding yourself back and go out there and live your life..It’s your’s go take it. And stop being at your own faults.


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